You Keep Sayin’ No, No, No, No, No – When It’s really still No No No No No

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This is my second time writing this post. The first version was poetic and filled with mystery. “Was she really talking about what I think she’s talking about?”.

I’m on the subway now. I am on my Iphone working to try and flesh it all out but I re-read it and I hated it. WTF am I even talking about? referencing the Phoenix and the death of dreams. I honestly ask myself who I think I even am a few times a week. Maybe when I started writing I was still in pain and couldn’t find my words. Let’s go with that.

Well I have found them now. I also have found the purpose of this post ( besides publicly bitching to make myself feel better – let’s be real).

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When I began the process for auditioning for Soulcycle (December 2013) I googled A LOT. What was the process like? How did people succeed? How did they fail? There were a few blog posts* and articles. A search now will yield even more information including a New Yorker article published early last month with interviews with much of the training team who I had spent the last 3 years taking class with.

What’s missing out there is MY story.

Not that my story is unique – there are a lot of people out there (I’m sure?) who have auditioned as many times as I have but there is no one writing about it. There is no one out there letting all the others know that it’s okay to fail and to put yourself out there as many times as you can actually stand it – and still not succeed in getting what you want.

*sigh*

First of all let’s not pretend for one second that I am over any of this. I had to physically unsubscribe from the email list, and unfollow anyone who works there off of Facebook to stop the sting. I don’t want to say I’ll never go back to class but I’m an overly emotional person and it hurts so much I need distance.

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I am breaking up with you Soulcycle.

You never wanted to be with me anyway.

(DRAMATIC)

Here is the number:

I auditioned for the SoulCycle training program 6 times over 2.5 years.

I am not going to take this space to speculate on the WHY’S I never made it to the second round of interviews or the “callback”- because that sends me down a rabbit hole of self doubt. Instead I’m going to just accept that I am not what they wanted and don’t expect I ever will be since I don’t plan on changing any part of myself (except maybe my hair color).

But Here is the good part: I auditioned for Soulcycle SIX TIMES!

I did not give up after 1,2,3,4,5 Rejections emails ( The same email in fact)

I kept going. I kept riding, I kept trying to improve my body and in the end I rode front and center in every class. I had strangers telling me how good I was, how much fun I was to ride next to, and how I helped them keep the beat.

For someone who grew up not knowing right from left ( I have dyscalculia – directional dyslexia to put it simply) this is one of my greatest accomplishments. Soulcycle became physical therapy… for my brain. No rejection email can ever take that away from me.

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There are few dreams I’ve had that I’ve wanted as badly as to be a Soulcycle instructor:

1. To be Mimi in RENT ( luckily I still look young so still a chance)

2. To be with Adam ( we are married, check)

3. To get into NYU & FIT (check,check)

Because I learned that working hard and showing up can often yield positive results that’s what I did, and I fell in love. I used every positive affirmation, candle spell, manifestation trick in the book and here I am with another rejection email in my trash folder. Maybe there is something else I need to be doing right now, and I should just accept that. I can say with 100% confidence that I tried as many times as my heart could handle.

If you had asked me 2 years ago I would say

NEVER STOP

NEVER GIVE UP

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But at 31 years old I have reached a point where if something is not working I need to try something else- or go a different way. I have no more energy, anger or tears for this.

If you have auditioned for Soulcycle (or anything really) and gotten that email. With no explanation and no why’s – don’t give up. Keep going until you physically can’t, keep trying until you can’t breathe. Put every ounce of your energy and life and soul into your dreams until they come true in the way you want or in ways you never even thought possible.

Put yourself out there! Even if it’s to the same people all 6 times and they know your name. Show them how you shine even when you’re terrified of failure.

My heart is full because I know I did my best and because of all the support and love around me and that helps the sharp stabs of pain I sometimes still feel. Is it sadness? Is it ego? Is it envy? Yes for sure, all of that, but I wouldn’t go back and change a thing

xoxo

*Hallie Wilson Is a Chicago based Soulcycle Instructor who runs the awesome fashion blog Corals & Cognacs. I had the pleasure of auditioning with her in August 2014 and she made it through on her second try. Her story is awesome!

A Fashion Moment: Gladiator Sandals

First of all, before I get into my new fashion segment post I call “A Fashion Moment” – I need you to head over to Ebates and sign up now! I never, ever shop without it because you get cash back just from buying stuff – it goes right into your Paypal account every 2-3 months as cash. This is tottally relavant to what I am about to post because one of my favorite online stores Shopbop.com is having it’s friends and family sale right now  (ENTER CODE: INTHEFAM @ checkout) and on top of 25% off your purchase Ebates is offering 6% cash back! Discounts like these make me feel like I am getting away with something. (But I’m not).

So coupon code in hand (or e-mail) I was ready to pick out the perfect pair of gladiator sandals to complete every spring/summer outfit of my dreams. For those of you who don’t know Spring/Summer are my favorite months of the year and I LOVE buying clothes for them. I love dresses, I love jackets, I love tank tops and I love the sun.

I try to pick a theme every year to help myself out when I shop. Mostly because then I have an excuse to put together a pretty extensive Pinterest board. I have been doing these wishlists for YEARS. Some of them are pretty embaressing, but that’s okay because I’m sure I will always be embaressed by something. This summer is all about rocker boho. I have a denim obsession but I am also obsessed with hippie mini dresses, fringe, leather, etc. I will now have to find the happy medium between all these thing and I do believe my gladiator sandal purchase is the answer to it all.

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I decided on the Free People Mesa Verde Gladiator in Black ( I have my eyes on a nude color pair on Poshmark by a different brand). What’s more rocker chic than black? Plus Free People is by far one of my favorite brands. I could just see in my mind all the amazing outfits I could make with these amazing shoes. In fact I created a little collage for you all:

 

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Vintage Levi’s , simple boho jewelry, fringe backpacks (I LOVE Backpacks), denim jackets, and perfectly soft vintage t-shirts.
Win, win, win, win, WIN

That New New (New New)

Confession Time:

I have like 12 blogs.
I have so many Tumblrs I cant locate the password for one of them because I think I deleted the domain the e-mail address was associated with.

*Le Sigh*

I have so many abandoned blogs because in the past I wanted to keep all the elements of my life sectioned off and separated. How could all the weird things I love and love to do mesh together and make sense? Well I guess they must mesh somehow because they are all the elements of what make me who I am.

I let fashion blogging fall to the wayside and filled these “pages” with sponsored posts, school assignments, and left draft post after draft post pile up. Unfinished and un thought of. I started a Tumblr dedicated to Game of Thrones, a tumblr of book reviews to fulfill 2015’s goal of reading 100 books (I think I read 10 or 15?), a fitness blog where I waxed poetic about spin class and my dreams, and lastly an emo blog full of private posts regarding my feelings. Mostly so I just had a place to let them out and then cry about it all afterwards.

Then 2015 happened. What a shit-show. I tried to combine three etsy stores and a fashion blog into one cohesive website/store then everything just fell to the wayside as I dealt with dental issues, and Etsy issues, and failure after failure. By the end of the year I was just trying to keep my head above water. Treading along, generally not being able to breathe. I don’t want to talk about all that lotus growing in the mud crap but all that mess led to some much needed clarity and by January of this year I finally felt able to purge.

#1: I let my vintage business go. My store was not working anymore and I had begun to hate everything about doing it. I tried a re-vamp this and that but I was left with no desire to pursue it, especially when new projects started to pull me away. Listing became a chore that I did not want to do and that meant productivity as a whole was down. I got rid of my storage space and sold off the last of my inventory. It felt sad and terrifying and liberating all at one time.

#2: I am letting my witchy flag fly. Tarot, candles, mediation, crystals, sage. the whole 9 yards. It works for me and it always has. This is my spirituality and it belongs to me.

#3: HAMILTON I spent 3 days around Thanksgiving  listening to the Broadway Cast recording of Hamilton and it changed my life. (This deserves an entire post so I’m just going to leave it at here for now and know there is an entire post to come)

#4: I’m back to acting. This ties in with #3 – coming soon

#5: I started to work on my family tree on Ancestry.com complete with a DNA test.

#6: I am letting one of my biggest dreams die. (Dramatic right? This is also getting it’s own post)

Somewhere in there I decided I wanted my blog back. I started this blog almost 10 years ago to show off my daily outfits and thrift store treasure finds. It went off the rails when I started to sell vintage full time – mostly because I didn’t want people to know where I got my stuff. The world of vintage selling can be a supportive one but it is also crazy competitive. I tried to keep up with my outfit posts but it wasn’t my favorite part. I grew bored (just kidding, it’s cause I only wear sweatpants every day now), but still had (and have) an attachment to this little space I have created on the internet. So here it is being resurrected! At first I started drafting posts more of the same ol’ crap until I had an epiphany last night. I had created a tumblr (yes another blog) to talk about the research I am doing into my family’s history but I decided that maybe it belongs here as well. Maybe it all belongs right here in the little space I have already created. Where you can catch a glimpse into the weird shit I do all day, and who I am, and why I am that way.

So this is the new new me in the same old space.

 

xo

Spring Icon: LISA BONET

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After re-watching both Sister Act movie’s last month I am having a serious 90s moment. Truthfully I have been having a 90s moment for the last 5 years. During a down moment on the last shoot I was on (I am doing background work on tv shows now…more on that later) I pondered the idea of growing dreadlocks…mostly because I can. When I think dreadlocks, I think of Lisa Bonet. This led me on a bottomless Pinterest search…of awesomeness.
This spring it’s all about vintage t-shirt’s, high waisted Levi’s and my Adidas superstars. We already know I have too many backpacks so they will of course be part of this daily uniform. Dark red lipstick and we are good to go.
What’s on YOUR spring wishlist?

How To Decide If Plastic Surgery Is Really For You

There’s no denying that plastic surgery is becoming more and more popular. This is likely because of the sheer amount of celebrities having work done. You have to admit that if you were constantly in the spotlight, it’d be difficult not to become obsessed with the way you look. But is plastic surgery really for you? Here’s how to decide:

 

You’re Happy With Yourself As A Whole

 

If you’re happy with yourself as a whole and there’s just one thing you’re not happy with, plastic surgery could be for you. If you’re unhappy with lots of different areas, it’s unlikely you’ll stop at one procedure. It can be addictive!

 

You Don’t Want To Change A Whole Bunch Of Things

 

If you want to change lots of different things, it might help you to look inside yourself instead and work out what it is you don’t like exactly. You may not be happy with yourself because of false negative beliefs you hold about yourself. Before you change anything, work on self love.

 

You’re Not Relying On A Procedure To Make You Happy

 

Do you think that this procedure is going to make you happy? You’d be wrong. No outside source can make you happy. The only thing that makes you happy is yourself and the thoughts you think. This procedure will not suddenly change your entire outlook on life. It might make you a little more confident and give you some self esteem, but it can’t make you happy in every aspect. Certainly not forever!

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You’ve Thought About It For A Long Time

 

If you’ve thought about surgery for a long time, it might be worth going to a consultation with a place like Belcara health to get an idea of what to expect. You should never get surgery on a whim!

 

You Don’t Think Surgery Will Change Your Whole Life

 

Surgery won’t change your whole life. It won’t make you a more confident public speaker, it won’t improve your relationship, and it won’t get you a raise. That’s all down to you!

 

You’re Not Trying To Please Somebody Else

 

If you’re having surgery to please somebody else, you should definitely rethink your decision. Trying to please your other half by having surgery is a definite no! This decision needs to be for you.

 

You’ve Explored Other Avenues To Achieve The Look You Want

 

Have you even explored other avenues to achieve the look you want? For instance, if you’re thinking of lipo, have you even tried eating right and exercising first? If not, you should! Doing things naturally like this is cheaper and way more satisfactory. Of course there are some things you can’t change, like the size/shape of your bust or nose. You can contour them with makeup, but this isn’t always enough.

 

Hopefully these tips will help you to decide if surgery is right for you. Going for a free consultation should give you some idea too. Just make sure you’re realistic about what to expect!

Planning the Perfect Engagement

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Engagements are happy times. It’s likely you’re still in the besotted, heady phase of your relationship. But things have moved on. You’ve made a commitment to each other and are moving into the next part of your life. Much of our engagements are spent planning the wedding, and this has a tendency to take over. Embrace this happy stage of your life and make the most of your engagement.

 

Announcements

 

So, he’s popped the question. It was magical and romantic, and you have a beautiful ring. Though some couples prefer to look for the engagement ring together, after the proposal. If you’re one of these couples, then find suppliers that offer a stunning selection of styles and prices. Consider collections like Verragio rings.

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And now it’s time to let the rest of the world know. Usually, it is customary to let the parents know first. Decide how you’re going to do this. You could set up a special meal and invite both sets of parents and close family. This would allow you to tell them all at the same time and celebrate as a family together. Others prefer smaller gatherings. Once your immediate families have been told, you can move onto your wider families and friends.

 

Some couples add an announcement to the local newspaper. Others prefer to announce the news over social media channels such as Facebook. There are no hard and fast rules. However, it does take a little thought to ensure that no-one is left out and hears the news second-hand.

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Engagement Party

 

You don’t have to throw an engagement party. Again, there are no rules. But it can be a fun way to formalize things and make the announcement official. Some couples prefer lots of mini celebrations. For example, visiting family and friends and going for meals, etc. Embrace whatever works for you.

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Forward Planning

 

Once the initial excitement has worn off, things can seem a little daunting. Lots of people will be asking about the big day, and you have a whole wedding to organize. This is not something that you have to do alone. Enlist family and close friends to help you. Sharing the workload will ease the burden considerably.

 

Make a plan. The earlier you do this, the better. Once everything is written down and out of your head, you don’t have to worry about forgetting things. Some brides to be like to start thinking about beauty regimes in preparation for the big day.

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Take Time Away from Preparations

 

Your engagement is a beautiful and romantic time. It can also be tiring and stressful. Take lots of time away from the preparations and do things that are not related to the coming nuptials. Go on dates with your partner. Have fun with your friends. Do the things you enjoyed doing pre-engagement.

 

Reduce Stress

 

If you’re feeling overwhelmed, find ways to reduce stress. Adopt techniques that work for you. This could be exercise, reading, or meditation, etc. Don’t let worry and stress take over your engagement.

 

As we said earlier, your engagement is a unique time in your life. It’s not all about preparing for the next phase. Embrace this time you have together. Celebrate it and share it with the people close to you. Create memories that you can look back on in years to come.

 

Changes

It seems like every few years I do a post about changes in my life and to this blog.

I guess every few years I seem to live a different life.

Now it seems like I am going back in time. Coming full circle if you will.

It’s been a minute but The Thrifty Fashionista is BACK!

Thrifting Finds, Vintage find, fashion styling tips – The whole 9 yards.

The who, what, where, and why is coming while I start to make myself more presentable for you here.

Better, clearer, content

More inspiration to keep you inspired.

And  weekly Peeks into whats coming to my Poshmark Closet.

 

Stay tuned – Lots of goodness coming!

WHY Aren’t you shopping!? SHOPBOP SALE!

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It’s that time of the year again! Spring Sale time over at my favorite place: SHOPBOP.COM

When sales like this come around I take it for the perfect excuse to buy new workout gear and purses! I picked up these awessome ZARA TEREZ NYC NIGHTS Leggings which are perfect for spin class.

 

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And THIS:

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AMAZING Rebecca Minkoff HEART FRINGE CROSSBODY BAG. I am OBSESSED with my purchases!

 

Please comment and show me what you picked up during the sale!

 

The sale ends on Saturday March, 5th at 11:59 (PST) so start shopping now!

See all the details about exclusions and such HERE

Small Life Changes That Make A Huge Difference To Your Health

At some point, we all start to worry about our health. This usually happens when we get older. We start to check our body for lumps and bumps more often. We think about our diet and whether we’re exercising enough. All these decisions start to weigh up as we try and make sure we have a good quality of life at middle age. But the fact is that getting healthy isn’t that difficult. Making a few small lifestyle changes will quickly improve your health and ensure that you have a better quality of life. Here are just some of the changes that you should consider making.

 

Stop Drinking

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It’s time we admit what alcohol is. It may not be treated as one, but it’s a drug. It’s just as dangerous as weed; it’s as addictive as heroin, and there’s no reason that it should be legal. But we know that alcohol isn’t suddenly going to be banned. That would never happen due to the massive uproar it would cause across the country. But that doesn’t mean you have to drink. In fact, you shouldn’t because it’s damaging your health. Even if you’re only consuming it in small quantities. We know, one glass or red wine can be good for you. But that’s a week, not a day. If you think you’re drinking too much, it’s time to stop right now. If you can’t stop, that might point to a more serious problem you need to handle. Being sober can be difficult but the benefits make it worth it, we guarantee you.

 

Daily Exercise

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How much exercise would you say that you complete a week? If the answer is none, you need to do something about that. You don’t have to go to the gym. You don’t even have to complete strenuous forms of exercise. Walking counts. Just one walk around the block a day, and you’re getting more exercise than most people. Try walking a mile or two each day, not including how far you might need to walk at work. We promise you’ll feel a lot better by the end of the week. A simple change like this could have a huge impact on your health.

 

Diet Change

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Don’t worry; you’re not about to be advised to go on one of the ridiculous diets that are floating around the web. I’m certainly not going to suggest that you replace your meals with protein shakes. There’s no need. If you’re eating three, balanced meals per day, that’s more than enough. Do this and your diet isn’t something you need to worry about. You just need to try and avoid the junk food and the rubbish.

 

Stress

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Lastly, though perhaps most important, you need to consider levels of stress in your life. More than a lack of exercise, a poor diet or alcohol, stress can play havoc with your health. Ultimately, it could mean that you have problems with your weight and can even cause heart conditions. That’s why it’s so important that you do avoid stressful situations as much as possible. Or, learn how to cope with them.

 

Top Tips For Keeping The Wrinkles At Bay

Whether you’re 23 or 33, you need to be thinking about wrinkles. This might sound a little strange as most of us think that the aging process doesn’t start until we’re at least in our mid-thirties. However, the truth is, your skin can start to age from as early as your mid-twenties. So whatever your age, it’s important to start thinking about wrinkle prevention sooner, rather than later.

 

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Always wear sun protection

Don’t make the mistake of thinking that the sun can only damage your skin when it’s shining. The truth is that the sun’s UV rays can damage your skin even when it’s cloudy outside, so it’s important to wear sun protection every day. Damage caused by the sun can not only lead to skin cancer, but also to premature aging. That’s why it’s so important to protect your skin from the sun, as else you’ll age more quickly.

This doesn’t have to mean wearing sunscreen every day, instead invest in products that contain sun protection. Many face creams, foundations, and primers have SPF built into them, so you don’t need to panic about applying sunscreen. (Make sure to double check that your products contain sun protection.)

Have a good skin care routine in place

If you want to keep your skin looking healthy for as long as possible, it’s essential that you have a good skin care routine in place.

This should comprise on daily cleansing and toning, to remove makeup and dirt. If you fail to do this, you’re leaving your skin prone to damage caused by free radicals – aka, toxins that come from dirt. For best results, opt for natural cleanser and toner. (Products containing chemicals can wreak havoc on your skin, and even cause earlier aging.)

As well as cleansing and toning, at least twice a week you also need to be exfoliating. In your twenties, exfoliating two times a week is more than enough, unless you suffer from dry skin, that is. In your thirties, you should aim to exfoliate at least three to four times a week. This is because your skin is unable to remove dead skin cells itself, so it needs a helping hand.

One of the most important parts of your skin care routine is hydrating your skin with face cream. Dry skin is more prone to aging, so it’s essential that you make sure to keep your skin well hydrated. To do this, you need to invest in a good quality face cream. If you’re in your twenties, this should be a rich cream, but doesn’t need to be anti-aging. If, however, you’re in your thirties, one of the women’s most-loved wrinkle remover creams is ideal.

Be healthy

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The key to keeping the wrinkles at bay isn’t just beauty products; your lifestyle also plays an important part. As well as being down to genetics, the rate at which your skin ages can be affected by environmental factors.

People who lead healthy lives – aka, eat healthily, exercise regularly, and don’t smoke, are less likely to age quickly. That’s why it’s so important that you make every effort to lead a healthy lifestyle.

So there you go, these are all the best tips for keeping wrinkles at bay.